Sunday, March 4, 2007

Men with virginity layers

This is not a reality but a mere thought that came to my head when I was contemplating about some of the many norms and traditions that basically rule our Egyptian society.
It seems to me that people put too much emphasis on being a "virgin", that it is no longer a personal issue or a religious one but rather it is something that girls would have to put in their C.V. when applying for a job! That might be extreme but why aren't men judged in that same way even though there is no religion on earth that says that it is ok for men not to be virgins and it is only a must for girls.
In other parts of the world this is no longer an issue not because pre-marital sex has been accepted and labeled as not a sin, but because it has been realized that in order for men not to be virgin and be accepted for it for that matter, they need women partners in order to make that happen, so in that sense both have been accepted in society.
However, in the Egyptian society, a miracle is expected somehow where men are supposed not to stay virgins and girls and women are expected to remain that way till their wedding day; which is a very good idea if the Egyptian society was purely and simply a gay one.
So that got me thinking about something, if it is a sin to have pre-marital sex in our society and religion, whether you are a man or a woman, then why does it become a scandal for women and almost pride for a man.
The answer that came to me was probably the most obvious one, because women have virginity layers and men don't. if you think about it a virginity layer is like a safety seal and it is rather funny that women can be treated the same way as a water bottle or a jar; in the sense of "if the seal is broken return to company -or- don't buy if safety seal is broken" works on bottles, jars as well as women.
Now what if it was the other way around, what if it was he men who had that guarantee of purity and not women? Would it be that different? Well I think so. I believe that the whole male dominance issue started not because men are smarter, more capable or more powerful than women, but because but simply because they felt that they had to protect that one thing that women have…their precious layer.
The idea of owning something that isn't yours and should only be taken from you not given away willingly is what makes men feel that they have power over women, like a father over protecting his daughter so as she doesn't loose what keeps her pure till she is handed over to the husband who in turn will probably treat her as property. If it was the other way around, then the protective instinct would have been stronger with females and would give them the right to dominate over men.
Then a crazy idea came to my head, if all girls were born without virginity layers in a sense that would make them more equal to men –physically at least, would that give them the right to the freedom that they really desire and not be looked down upon by men?
Maybe, but since this is very unlikely to happen perhaps the only true hope women have in the Egyptian society is for people to acknowledge the fact that a sin is a sin. Unless there is an imaginary breed of women who are not virgins, and are not supposed to be, so men can exercise their so called rights before marriage (not including prostitutes of course!).
The Egyptian society has to realize that before god we are equal and as much as people say that she gave away her "pride and honor" they have to realize that she didn't give it to thin air, she gave t to a man who took it gladly and with a smile.
Still, most Egyptian women are waiting for that day when the men are the ones who are born with virginity layers in today's confused and unfair society.

1 comment:

Minx0r said...

I understand your view point!

What makes it worse though is that in Egypt girls very rarely have anything to offer other than sex! Its a sad thing to say and ofcourse this is just my opinion.

Lets look at what I mean. In Egypt the standard girl that dates and has a boyfriend has very little to offer other than '2owanta' talk, mushy lovey dovey words that dont mean anything (saying I love you to a guy because hes your boyfriend is NOT the right reason!). Personally it would be great if I could find a girl that has 'spunk'. Has the (physically non existent i hope) balls to do something and is a more pro active partner.

Living in Cairo doesnt help either. Very rarely will you find a couple that genuinely express care. Holding hands and walking along the corniche doesnt count! What makes it worse is that when you want to be genuine with your girl friend, half of Cairo suddenly bears down on you and both are left standing out like a saw thumb!

Virginity is not something physical, its something spiritual. Finding a fresh milk bottle with a broken seal doesnt mean the milk is off, sending it back to the company / shop is just a waste of time and you can very well end up buying a sealed milk bottle, only to find its off!

hello anyway :)